My incredible coach Sachin Sharma asked me this question before during our weekly coaching session, and it really woke me up.
The truth is that September of 2023 felt like a tough month for me. A month full of personal judgement.
I created around Β£50k in revenue in my business in just 6 months. And then in September 2023 I had a Β£0 month.
I freaked. I began judging myself with all sorts of thoughts; like ‘it must’ve been a fluke,’ and ‘it is just not good enough, you need to do better.’
My amazing husband Amit pointed out to me that I often operate in a pattern of self sabotage. I can fly really really high and have great success, and then I begin to create self-doubt. I fall spectacularly, according to me. (The truth is that I don’t actually fall at all, I just convince myself that I do).
I begin to avalanche myself with self-judgement.
The result is that I turn to distractions to take my mind away from the judgements I put on myself.
These distractions become my safety nets. Nets that supposedly catch me and help me avoid the pain of self-judgment momentarily.
My safety nets are:
1) Eating junk food for momentary peace of mind
2) Procrastinating by binging Netflix
3) Avoiding daily meditation – no one will know but me
4) Seeking validation of others to ease the critical thinking
5) Rushing. This has been my route to creating success in my life. If I stop rushing, everything will fall apart right?!
‘If you are not willing to surrender these safety nets, how will you ever grow wings?’ – The wise Sachin Sharma π
As I have been reflecting on this, a few questions arose for me:
What if I didn’t have ANY of these safety nets anymore?
What if I removed all safety nets from my reality?
Damn. If I committed to that then I would suddenly have a lot of time.
Everything would get really really quiet. Everything would slow right now.
And I would speed up. I would begin creating with ease and power.
As I write these words, I feel transformation stirring within me.
So I ask myself: ‘What is required of me for my coaching to actually work to its highest degree of effectiveness?’
The true question that emerges is: ‘What is required of me for my life to actually work to its highest degree of effectiveness?’
The answerβ¦
To lovingly eliminate the safety nets that I have been holding onto. To drop the ideas I have of myself and to be open to new possibilities of being.
- When there is no option for falling, I no longer fall.
- When there is no plan B, I only focus my time and attention on plan A.
- When there is no other option than to lovingly return to my Document, I face the self-judgement and I practice daily self-forgiveness.
I can choose how effective my coaching will be.
I can choose how effective my life will be.
It’s my choice.
It’s in my power to commit.
This post is an act of committing to dropping these safety nets.
Because they are not nets at all. They don’t catch me. They cage me.
My wings will sprout when I commit to leaving the ‘safety nets’ behind.
I forgive myself for judging myself for believing that I needed safety nets.
The truth is that I AM FREE. Only always.
Love
Rajni π
