Not being in integrity with my word has wreaked havoc in my life.
I used to often give my word to people and then I would break it.
‘We should definitely meet up.’
‘Let’s go for dinner.’
‘I will definitely come round sometime.’
‘I am going to go to bed earlier so I can wake up for my workout.’
All of these were outright lies. I was so out of integrity with my word that my life was all over the place.
For example, I didn’t go to bed earlier and that created mess with my word ‘I am going to workout in the morning.’
Not being in integrity with my word creates distrust in myself. My coach once said to me: ‘When you continuously negotiate with yourself, your word means nothing.’
For example, when I tell myself I am going to eat more healthily and then I have take-away 4 times in one week, my trust in myself diminishes.
When I am not being my word with myself, the workability of my life decreases drastically.
When I wasn’t being my word, I would create masses of excuses for myself. Continuously creating excuses left me so exhausted and with results that I didn’t want.
For instance, when I kept saying yes to events that I didn’t want to attend, I would end up mentally exhausted trying to get out of things that I’d given my word to. This was an unconscious hidden drain on my energy that I wasn’t aware of.
This way of being massively dulled my experience of living.
Continuously breaking my word to myself created a world where:
‘I want to but I can’t because I don’t have time.’
I was so convinced by this. Every time I made an excuse, I reinforced the limitation and it robbed me of my freedom.
When I was willing to surrender my excuses of why I couldn’t, I entered a new world entirely. I entered a world of playful creation, where anything is possible.
This world offers me possibilities that I cannot see when I am operating inside the world of ‘I can’t because…’
When I surrender my excuses, I enter the world of deeply asking myself ‘What do I really want?’
I get clear on my true commitments. Then I create a life where I can have it all. Because I am ONLY committed to what I really want, not what I should want.
This is the greatest gift you could give yourself. When you get really clear on the people and things that you truly want to give your word to, the workability of your life increases.
From this place of clarity, you can say no effectively because your commitments are clear.
From this place, can you treat giving a yes to something like you are giving away a bar of gold?
My yeses are worth their weight in gold because if I say something,
you can count on it happening. I can count on myself to keep my word too. And my no’s are crystal clear. This way of being serves everyone, including me.
Getting clear on my commitments and remaining in integrity is setting me free.
I am cleaning up my word in every area of my life because true commitment is the ultimate freedom.
